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We learn to avoid situations that may put us at risk physically, morally, psychologically or spiritually.We surrender, one day at a time, our whole life strategy of, and our obsession with, the pursuit of romantic and sexual intrigue and emotional dependency.We are willing to be vulnerable because the capacity to trust has been restored to us by our faith in a Higher Power.We seek to develop a daily relationship with a Higher Power, knowing that we are not alone in our efforts to heal ourselves from our addiction.*© 1990 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc. We idealize and pursue them, then blame them for not fulfilling our fantasies and expectations. We assign magical qualities to others.To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement, mistaking sexual and emotional anorexia for recovery.We stay enslaved to emotional dependency, romantic intrigue, or compulsive sexual activities.We avoid responsibility for ourselves by attaching ourselves to people who are emotionally unavailable.We become immobilized or seriously distracted by romantic or sexual obsessions or fantasies.We use sex and emotional involvement to manipulate and control others.We use sex or emotional dependence as substitutes for nurturing, care, and support. We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy.Even though we fear intimacy and commitment, we continually search for relationships and sexual contacts. We feel empty and incomplete when we are alone.We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or the need to rescue or be rescued.Fearing emotional and/or sexual deprivation, we compulsively pursue and involve ourselves in one relationship after another, sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional liaison at a time.Fearing abandonment and loneliness, we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships, concealing our dependency needs from ourselves and others, growing more isolated and alienated from friends and loved ones, ourselves, and God.Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attached to people without knowing them.The following are characteristics of signposts of sex and love addiction. The Characteristics of Sex & Love Addiction: Admitting personal powerlessness over this affliction, we cease our addictive behavior and turn to guidance from a Power greater than ourselves, make restitution for harm done to others, and reconstruct our lives physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. In S.L.A.A., we learn to accept the reality of having this addiction and surrender any notion that we can control it successfully on the basis of our unaided will. However, if we follow a simple program which has proven successful for scores of other men and women with the same illness, we can recover. Sex and love addiction, if left unchecked, always gets worse. An obsessive/compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional (or both), exists in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family, and sense of self-respect. It may take several forms - including (but not limited to) a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many) and/or chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue, or fantasy.
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believe that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured, but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested. What all members have in common is an obsessive/compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional (or both, in which relationships or activities have become increasingly destructive to all areas of their lives - career, family, and sense of self-respect.)Įxcerpt taken from the pamphlet, "Suggestions for Newcomers" Copyright 1985 S.L.A.A. Members include both those who suffer from a compulsive need for sex, and those with a desperate attachment to one person. With established meetings in many cities in the United States and several cities overseas, this self-help fellowship is open to people of any age or sexual preference. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a fellowship based on the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
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(Excerpt from the pamphlet "An introduction to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous" © 1985 S.L.A.A.)